Tuesday, 19 October 2010

my milk

I am very lucky. I know that some women find breastfeeding incredibly difficult to establish and for some, they are never able to get it right. For some women this inability to feed their babies must be devastating. I know that I am lucky.

But it wasn't easy for me with Minnie or Louis. I had attachment problems, cracked nipples, thrush, mastitis, pain and discomfort. But I am pig headed. I kept on going until it was right. I got help and kept on trying. Yes, there were nights that I cried throughout entire feeds but I kept on going. For about 6 weeks I was in terrible pain every time I fed Louis. But I just kept going. I am not after any accolades - it's just something that I really needed to get right.

I fed Minnie until she was 2 1/2 and I am so pleased I did. I know that some people think it's odd to feed a walking, talking, all-singing and all-dancing child. I guess before I had Minnie I thought it was perhaps 'unnecessary.' But of course once I had her that all changed. It didn't seem odd or strange at all. On one occasion I had to argue the benefits of extended breastfeeding to a (female) doctor. I don't think she got it.

Insurmountable feeding problems aside, I find it sad when I hear of women that go straight to formula, that don't try or don't ask for help. I am most definitely not having a go at women that are unable to breastfeed - I just wish the women that were able to feed would give it a go. And I won't get started on what I think about the clever brainwashing tactics of large companies that make artificial milk...

So I am lucky and pleased. So pleased that I can do this for my babies. So pleased that I get to share that special time, watching them fall asleep, little chubby fingers resting on my breast.

Friday, 15 October 2010

by candle light

Tonight at 7.00pm there will people be going about their evening. Starting dinner, reading bed time stories, pouring a glass of wine or waiting for their friends at the bar. People will be tidying up, washing up, putting out the rubbish or taking the dog for a walk. People will be surfing the web, ironing their shirts, or nervously waiting for their date to arrive.

But at 7.00pm in some houses, in towns and cities all over the world, people will be lighting a candle. Or lots of candles. Today, 15th October, is the day that we light candles to remember all our babies that have died during pregnancy or infancy.

Every day in Australia 6 babies are still born. Every day in Australia many more babies are born early and die or are lost to miscarriage or die in the early days after birth. Every day in Australia people go about their days not knowing how devastating this day has become for someone else.

So on this day, while you go about your evening, perhaps you too could pause to honour these babies by lighting a candle.

Wednesday, 13 October 2010

5 months

This strange spring. Some days are sunny and warm and perfect for toes in the sand. Others, are grey and cloudy and just right for a cosy hat and a cuddle with Daddy at the beach.

Louis is 5 months now. Well 5 and a bit months. He is trying to crawl and loves rolling around the room. He laughs and giggles and thinks that the dog catching the ball is wonderful. But not as wonderful as his sister Minnie - she is his real star around here. He has tried a little lick of mango and a tinsy bit of avocado and we think that when the time comes, he will love his food.

Where did the time go?